The Pitfalls of Looking Calm

Something different today (sorry there are no books involved) This year, in honour of Bell Let’s Talk Day, I am posting an article I wrote last year.

The Pitfalls of Looking Calm

“You didn’t look anxious!”

This statement can be really encouraging if you have just given a presentation, met someone new or performed for a crowd, but there are other times that looking calm has its downsides.

I have had severe anxiety (both social and general) since I was 11 years old. That’s 14 years of practice looking clam when the panic rises. That is not to say that I am always trying to look calm. Most of the time my focus is not on looking calm but only on surviving the moment, not throwing up and not fainting.  I always considered looking calm to be a positive, something to strive for. That is what was taught by all my teachers: look confident, stand up straight, make eye contact, never show that you are nervous. Only in the last year since starting treatment have I realized that showing your vulnerability, your panic, can be important.

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Books Minus Romance

Recently I have become incredibly tired of books that are all centered around romance. It seems like every book, no matter the genre, turns into a romance by the end. This is especially true of young adult books.

Here I have collected some of my favourite books that do not involve a romantic relationship or the relationship is at least in the background to the main story.

Trouble is a Friend of Mine

One of my all time favourite books. This book is about friendship and solving a mystery. The characters are fun, exciting and full of sass.

Robot in the Garden

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Favourite Book Quotes

Whenever I am reading a book, I always bookmark parts that I really love so that I can reread them over again. I mark quotes that are funny or especially meaningful. Sometimes I mark quotes and then when I go back to them I have no idea why I marked them! I think this is like when reading a book has different meanings to you at different times in your life: A quote may have great meaning at the time but not as much later when your mind state has changed.

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Let’s Talk About Mental Illness

In honour of Let’s Talk Day, I am finally posting this list of books involving mental illness. It is even more fitting that this is my first post after a long break due to dealing with a bad depressive episode. I often find myself wanting to read about characters/people who have similar struggles.

The picture I put up is one that I made myself for an art class. It is meant to be an awareness poster for depression. It shows the silence a person (thank you to me friend for being the model) being silenced while a dementor (aka depression) sucks the life out of her. I am not an artist so it is not very polished but I thought it was fitting for this post.

Here is a list of books about some aspect of mental illness:

  • Furiously Happy and Let’s Pretend this Never Happened by Jenny Lawson- Depression and Anxiety

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If You Liked An Abundance of Katherines

A lot of people are big fans of John Green’s “The Fault in Our Stars”. Although I really enjoyed TFIOS, my favourite John Green book is “An Abundance of Katherines”. I love how it is a very different kind of story and not your typical run of the mill love story. I love how nerdy Colin is and how he brings a different kind of perspective to the book.

If, like me, you liked An Abundance of Katherines, then here is a list of books you may also enjoy:


This is one of my new favourite books. I listened to it as an audiobook and the narration was amazing! The new girl in town finds herself befriending the outcast boy. She helps “Ghost Boy” to solve a family mystery. I love that this book is more than a love story and the characters are so real just like in Katherines.

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